Careful. Just slow down. Slow everything down. Seriously.
I don't think this is the time to "give it to her straight".
Being a doormat is one thing. Validating with a strong, calm and confident tone is another thing.
You really can't work yourself up like this. You have to remain calm in your approach.
Think about everything you are about to say. Before you say it.
Speak in a calm and confident voice. Do not speak fast or ramble sentences together, just to "get it out".
This might be the start of many talks, so you DO NOT need to get it all out in this one conversation.
You need to enter this conversation like YOU left HER and she might be trying to get YOU back. You are strong, calm, confident and stable.
This might be a first step. Don't f-ck it up by accusing, blaming and finger-pointing.
The squirrel might be peeking her head out of her hole. Do you think it would be best to wave your hands and make a bunch of noise? What do you think that squirrel would do if you did that?
You got this. Forget trying to rehearse a speech. Just remain all of the following, no matter what she says or how heated she gets. Let her be the crazy loose cannon. Because you will be the stable rock.
