The mental space is definitely getting better. The more I fill my life with things that I want to do, the less idle time I have on my mind to think about W.
Sounds like your buddy's dad had an awesome home gym. What a way to workout with a smoke at the same time. Alpha male on high gear lol.
Yeh, the place is coming along good. I should have it all set up by the end of the year. I have a DIY project planned but it will have to wait for a little bit, which is okay. W saw the place couple of weeks back and it has changed dramatically since then as I have put stuff up and got more furniture. There hasn't been a reason for me to invite her to my place and I haven't been to her place in a long time either. Kids love the new space and they've gotten used to it now.
All in all, life is coming together. My blood pressure is still doing great and my sugar levels are normalizing with me eating better, being physically active, and doing some light meditation. I feel a lot less stressed. I think it has a lot to do with the mental shift that I've been working on towards becoming less controlling - it's already improved my relationships with the kids and I feel a lot more at ease. It has also allowed me to give W the benefit of the doubt in certain cases recently - I would've chalked up her behavior to being disorganized and flakey previously, but instead I trust that she did things in a good way and everything was fine. And if she forgot because of whatever reason, it's okay because I forget to do $hit too and it's not because she's a bad planner. As soon as I let myself reframe my thoughts, I just got so calm and realized I was getting worked up over nothing.
So, mental focus and letting go of control has been a huge help.
