That's a crazy year. I also remember the 'anniversaries' of events related to my husband's affairs. There doesn't seem to be much benefit in pointing them out to your wife, or in discussing them with her, but perhaps you can have your own private ceremony where you burn / wash away a piece of paper with the event recorded and your thoughts about the matter. Then you can do something to celebrate the progress that's been made together with your wife. Or perhaps just take a long walk on those days and think. Those memories are still fresh in your mind but hopefully in another year or two they will start to affect you slightly less if everything goes well with your wife. I wish you the best and hope you'll never have to go through anything like that again!
