Oh yeah, life goes on...

[Sotto]

Hi all, thanks so much for your thoughts above. It is helpful to remember that it generally doesn't end well for the MLCer. Not that I wish XH unhappiness, but I would like to see him have some regret at some point and perhaps apologise too. I understand either may never happen and that's okay. It doesn't take up that much of my headspace now.

Well, time for a mini update from me. I had a milestone birthday last week and enjoyed 4 or 5 different fun events with family and friends - meals out, a party and a present of a style consultation, which was fun. I felt spoiled by everyone and had a lovely time.

I'm still dancing and singing - plus yoga and divorce group friends. Divorce group is on at the moment and I'm helping facilitate one of the groups there. They are a lovely group and it seems to be helping people. We've had some fun too. Our group is a mixture of LBS and WAS actually, so that's interesting. Central to the situations are infidelity and drug or alcohol abuse. I'm glad to still be involved in the programme and it is rewarding to have something to offer others after the pain of going through it yourself.

A new group is starting up in our area for singles in their 50s. Me and some friends are going along to their inaugural meeting, so hopefull that will be fun. I have also been a bit tempted by a dancing holiday. But my two good dancing buddies aren't able to go and I don't feel brave enough to go it alone. We'll see how things unfold.

The flat is almost decorated, but with the winter months I crashed, burned and lost any momentum to finish off. I'm giving myself until the New Year off and then I'll do the rest. I did pretty well to get 75% done in the last few months and it looks mostly nice now. Work trips along and I reduced my days now - so a little more freedom and R&R for me. Work is still busy though and I always seem to have to cram in a little extra at home..

No romatic news - but really it is fun to be single and have friends, dance, song and laughter in my life. If someone nice came along, I wouldn't be closed to that, but I'm not actively seeking that either. Actually a married friend came along to my birthday party last weekend, where we had a really good laugh about various things. She said - wow, you divorced folk have so much fun!!

Anyway - that's it from me and I try to remember to practice gratitude. Someone on this site also recommended the Calm.com app, which I'm trying. I do like it and may buy it. I'm also getting more into folk music lately, which is fun.

Take care folks and have a lovely weekend xxx