still struggling

[Jim1234]

Something else that's going on... WAW called to let me know something about the refinancing, and when she was on the phone let me know she was just getting out of a doctor's office, and she was going back on antidepressants because she's "having a hard time coping".

I replied with a non-committal "hmmmm" when what I really wanted to say was, "How is it possible that you are depressed? After all, I was the cause of ALL the ills in your life, and it should be just perfect now that I'm not in it any more."

I'd like to think that this would serve as a wake up call that the issues in her life don't have as much to do with me as she has led herself to believe, but I'm not about to hold my breath.

And not that I would wish depression on anyone, but it is kind of validating to know that her problems are her own, and I have nothing to do with them. Also, after years and years of taking care of her, it's nice to know that I no longer have to.