Thanks for the advice. I found out it's gone on since Feb, she says not physically until a few weeks ago but I know that's a load of rubbish.
Anyhow, I intend to make some space for myself to start moving forward. I just feel so sorry for my kids, they didn't choose this and now they're stuck with it. Glad I got my new house sorted out for them. It was so tough getting the evidence, it's really taken it out of me, but I can now start to let go and slowly move forward.
Some writers refer to life as having seasons, others call it chapters. All I know is that "this too, shall pass".
I'm so glad you have a new house. Hopefully, it will help in being a positive distraction the next few months. You will be able to decorate it just as you like. How about that!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I say give this a little while to sit in before making any major decisions in regards to the MR. My guess is that PA likely happened right before DB. It likely sealed the deal to the EA, which was full blown. The feeling of love is what she is feeling right now. So don't fall forbit.
A new place is very good for your mental sanity, getting on with life, focusing on yourself, and practicing detachment. I can tell you just from my experience that moving out to my own place was a game changer. It was as if a huge emotional burden was lifted off my shoulders. I am slowly making this place my own and for my kids. Focus on that.
Thanks for the notes of help guys. It’s amazing that early on I thought she could never do this, I realise now I’ve been hurt by a bad person. I’ve asked her not to contact me except for the kids and important stuff. To remove 17 years of love is gonna take a while, I’ve never had a previous relationship, but I’m going to take my time and find ‘me’ again.
Well things just got a lot tricker, not for me but for them. His wife is pregnant!! I feel so sorry for her situation, I can't imagine how it must feel carrying a child to someone who has left you for the women that cares for your 2.5 yr old child. It sounds like some sick movie plot. I really hope things work out for her, it's all just so sad.
Liam, wow so much has happened in a short time. I'm so sorry to hear that you found out all this information and have to move on. It sounds like you're doing the right things but it's still devastating and so sad for you and your kids. It sounds so hard to process everything. What a crazy story with your wife and the other man! I hope you make it through this and eventually find a new happiness in life, even if it's one that you can't quite imagine at this time.
Detach the most you can. Keep strong for your children. I´m really sorry for what you are going throw. Bad things come in waves...surf them. (((Liam)))
