still struggling

[Jim1234]

Today is D16's birthday. WAW came over and made dinner for us and two friends. We had a wonderful birthday time, lots of laughs, fun opening presents and cards... on the whole, and enjoyable time, and on the way out I asked WAW if we could talk for a minute.

I asked her about Thanksgiving and she said B and my brother had invited her down. I told her I would not be comfortable if the woman who was divorcing me came and spent the holiday with my family. She was visibly upset, and mentioned that I would be welcome anytime with her family. I said maybe that was because she was the one divorcing me, and not the other way around. She then asked “So this means the only way I’ll get to see your family is if you aren’t there?” and I said “no, it means I would be uncomfortable with you coming down for Thanksgiving weekend with my family.” She said that she thought I was not thinking about the kids, collected her things and drove away. We’ll see what happens.