A fire stick has a bunch of apps on it where you can stream shows/movies. You plug it into your TV like a jump drive. You can also take it where ever you want as long as you have a data connection. It's not live TV......many people use one if they don't have a smart TV so they can get Netflix, etc. I will be using it for the first time tonight.
I got a V about 5 years ago. It was kind of painful and I do get some pain down south from time to time. They say it is common, just do your research and make sure the Dr is good. You don't want an amateur messing around with the boys
Climbing sounds like your outlet. That is awesome that you discovered it, IMO everyone needs a release and I know many people struggle to find what works for them. Next year this time you will be hanging upside down
Sounds like you are doing great Maika! I've always been fascinated by tattoos, but my XW did not like them. So since BD, hey, what she likes and dislikes is no longer my concern. 4 years later I have a full leg sleeve and full arm sleeve, LOL!
Hey M, I would suggest looking up 'Still I Rise, by Maya Angelou. I found that so supremely helpful in my situation. I am glad to hear you are working on some artwork. Any hint as to what it is?
I am working on a shoulder piece that is a yin yang Phoenix/Koi (Rebirth, and overcoming adversity) With something along the lines of "From the ashes I will rise, to swim in still waters"
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Thanks J. Yehh the V doc is good and he's been doing it for a couplea decades now. I think I am in good hands
That's great AS about your tats - full leg and arm sleeves - niceeeee. I am working on my arm sleeve and W had said it would look amazing on me. So, time to get 'er done
I have three and the last one i got was over a decade ago. Been meaning to get some more but never got around to it. Now, I am working on my designs and pretty psyched to get them done.
Yeah I am doing pretty good all in all. I hope to just continue getting better and working towards my goals. I am feeling more content.
I have three and the last one i got was over a decade ago. Been meaning to get some more but never got around to it. Now, I am working on my designs and pretty psyched to get them done.
Excellent! I used to have more than I do now. I'm down to two. My tattoo artist said his goal is to get down to one.
NC/Dark and having very limited contact with W has helped immensely in this process. It has helped me work on detachment and I am just focusing on my goals and figuring out steps to make them a reality.
W does sometimes sends personal texts that are mixed in with messages about the kids. I used to read into those but now they just slide right off me.
My D is having her bday soon and I am wondering if we should celebrate it together or not. I am definitely doing something for them on my own and D and Dad time, but still not decided whether I will do a celebration with W together. The only reason I would do it if it might be better for D right now, but I also feel that her spending quality time with me and celebrating it with me will be a lot of fun. I want to make a grand day out of it and it will be her time with me. Lets see.
Hey M...I have been struggling with the same thing for Christmas. Whether or not to do a family thing or whoever doesn't have our girls just wakes up Christmas morning to some quiet time. Keep me posted on your thought process.
My D is having her bday soon and I am wondering if we should celebrate it together or not. I am definitely doing something for them on my own and D and Dad time, but still not decided whether I will do a celebration with W together. The only reason I would do it if it might be better for D right now
Yeah, this can be a tough one. I think you are in the right place mentally to go either way with it. IE, you can invite her and not be upset if she refuses, and you can have a party with her there without it being pursuit behavior. So in YOUR case I think it's fine to invite her. I wouldn't say that to some others here just due to their emotional fragility right now.
In my case XW and I did continue to do the kids' birthdays and Christmas mornings together with our kids at my place or hers, and in fact we still do. Neither of us has brought an OP along though.
Hey J. Yeh, I think this is a bit of a tough one just because trying to figure out the balance between what might be best for the kids vs what you want to do as DBing.
Like AS pointed out, I feel like I am in a much better place emotionally and mentally that I could go either way as I have no expectations from having W around. At the same time, I am also really psyched about creating some tradition with my kids that include quality time with them and me on these types of special days.
D hasn't asked yet whether we're doing the bday with me and W. Not sure what W has planned in terms of the bday celebration. I am leaning towards planning my day with D and having a fun day with her. I also want to step into a different role for these days than I did in the past. In the past, W would organize the bday and all of that and her and I would make the cake together. I would run the bday parties but she would do all the organization and planning. I want to take a more active role now and plan and do something all by myself - which includes learning how to bake some good cakes lol. I am great at cooking, but W did all the baking.
I am going to wait to see if W invites me to whatever bday celebration she's planning. I am going to go ahead and plan a day for myself anyways because there are things I want to do with D and make her day special.
I think your xmas situation is fairly similar. I favor Sandi's more hardline stance that the WAS/WW doesn't get to partake in 'family' activities anymore. This counts as one of them. I personally don't consider us as a 'family' unit. We're co-parents.
I also want kids to adjust to this new normal because even if we celebrate something together this year, I don't plan on doing that indefinitely. I'd rather have my special time with the kids on their bdays and she can do her thing. I take the separation down to the letter pretty much - she asked for it and doesn't want to work on the MR whatsoever, so be it. I get to control what I want to do and how.
So, I am going to wait and see what W says and gauge how the kids are feeling about this. If I sense that we should have a joint celebration, then I will do it. I will still plan a special day with D so that I get quality time with her for her bday. I don't want to make a decision from a point of being punitive to W, but she doesn't get the same level of cooperation and access to me and my time any more. I will only agree to it if it seems better for the kids. And I will do it this year if it comes down to it and assess again next year.
I didn't go for Halloween this year with W because I didn't want to. Kids still had a blast and I had a blast with them about the candy and everything afterwards.
