Careful with saying things like this. Its very invalidating -- "if YOU (W) had just done this better, we wouldnt be in this situation."
Makes perfect sense
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
Originally Posted By: Clyde
it's that she feels she should be able to do what ever she wants, like going out w/ the "sister".
You seem to be pinning this all on this/these events. But theres no way she walked out because you got upset about her going out a few times. I imagine the root cause is deeper.
I'm gonna go into this further in a separate post... both you and Another Stander bring this up. There has been a lot of convos w/ the W, circumstances I have not disclosed, the text discouraging my W to stand and so forth that keep on highlighting this sitch.
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
So why didnt you trust her?
I think this might make a little more sense after I post about there past outings.
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
Originally Posted By: Clyde
Seems like her friends are more important than her family... sad.
Coming from someone who was regularly working 100 hours a week? Im sure she would say that you thought "your job was more important than your family...sad"
I'm not going to take away from the dynamic my hours played in the sitch, however she knows my work was not more important than my family, in our recent convos that is something she as acknowledged, saying while she was not happy w/ the sitch, she saw no other way for it to unfold... I was doing all that I could. That kinda goes back to our last convo feeling like the root... it is one of the few things she has no interest in compromising in. Most of her laundry list has been gone through, w/ her making concessions on many of her reasons.
The sun still rises, even though the pain.
Married: 10 Together: 17 M:40 W:37 D:13, S 7, S:5 1st Bomb dropped: 4/20/17 2nd Bomb dropped: 6/6/17 Separated: 7/26/17 W moved back home: 12/1/17