WAS's like to surround themselves with enablers and that's what her sister is. But if it wasn't her sister it would be someone else- a friend, a coworker, an affair partner. Enablers are pretty easy to find. It's easy to blame the enablers for your sitch but that's not DB'ing either.
My W has surrounded herself with new teacher friends that she has only become closer with since BD and over the past year. Those are her enablers. She does not have any communication with any of our former family friends that we used to hang out with as a couple. I am still in those circles but she is not. In the beginning I was mad at the new friends of hers but I realized that was not the source of my problems. It is easy to try to place blame on others vs looking at yourself.
It took me a little bit of time though, probably the first month or so, to realize this. They are probably supporting her like most friends would and they only know what she tells them and who knows what that is so it's really not their fault.
