I heard a great tip for obsessing, courtesy of Melody B__t_ie. Try to force yourself to obsess, when you aren't. You can tell the difference between healthy obsessing and toxic obsessing using this trick. If you are just feeling passion about an idea, project, vacation, whatever, you will be able to force yourself to obsess.
If it's unhealthy obsessing, then try switching over to something healthy. If I'm obsessing about Matt, force myself to think of a work project or house project I'm excited about--Use the energy for something constructive.
P.S. Kinda funny watching him interact with the girls. When he left, they were awkward, young, etc... Now, we have two Amazing Confident Women. If Dad says something stupid, he is called on it immediately. He made the mistake of calling us "hens." They were all over him like a monkey on a banana. Oldest: Dad, that's incredibly sexist and I'm not impressed.
He apologized.
One day atta time.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
