Journaling:

Lots of daily back and forth with the L. Had to make provisions for potential changes in tax law. It’s inching closer to the finish line. I can’t stand how much money I am paying but I have no choice.

Spending all of my home time with the kids and only see w in passing. She has been trying to initiate conversations and even physical contact (not sexual) and I’m just not very interested. I have also tried to be there for the kids in every way. More hugs. More rough housing. More ILYs. I have no idea how the kids move around the house when I am not there to give piggy back rides.

W has stopped her overnights this week and now tells me when she will be coming and going and has been cooking meals for the family. Good news is i am not mind reading or thinking this is any sort of meaningful change.

I am going to need more cash than I have now to move out and set up the new place for me and the kids. Question is do I take out a personal loan, take money out of retirement funds with tax penalties, or ask to borrow from friends (as my family has no money)?


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving