She mentioned that would be fine, but and she had no intention of being excluded from family events any more
What the heck, did I just wake up in cray cray town or something? Dude, it is YOUR family, not hers. S and D is a package deal, she rejects you then she is rejecting your family as well. Tell her that given the current situation you do not feel comfortable being around her at your family events and she is no longer welcome. Then talk to your family members and explain to them that having her around would make you miserable and uncomfortable, and ask them to respect your boundaries and not invite her. That's fine if they want to continue talking to her or texting her, you can't stop that. But having her at family get-togethers is ridiculous.
I emailed B today, and she did indeed invite WAW. That just blows me away.
Stander, I will tell her exactly what you suggested, and let the family know as well.
The good news is that the court order gives me the kids over Thanksgiving, so she'll spend it with my family, and the kids, my parents, and I (and probably a lot of the rest of my family) will spend it somewhere else.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
Sounds like your W is still benefiting from the MR. If your family still opts to invite her, even after you expressing how you feel. Then perhaps you and the kids should just stay home.
My D15's birthday is tomorrow. D asked if she could invite WAW to dinner, so I will see her tomorrow. After dinner, when she's leaving, I will bring this issue up. If she insists she will go to Thanksgiving dinner, I will make other plans.
I suspect one of my other brothers will host an alternate Thanksgiving dinner which the rest of us will attend, and B and her husband can entertain WAW alone.
B's husband called last night to "ask how we could resolve this." I very angrily told him I couldn't believe the balls on his wife. He told me to calm down, and I yelled "F$%K YOU! DON'T TELL ME TO CALM DOWN!" He hung up after that.
In a way, I'm very thankful to WAW and B for pulling this [censored]. I am having a very hard time distancing myself from the MR, but this has done me a world of good with respect to that.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
The good news is that the court order gives me the kids over Thanksgiving, so she'll spend it with my family, and the kids, my parents, and I (and probably a lot of the rest of my family) will spend it somewhere else.
Honestly this is new territory for me here on these forums, and I thought I had heard it all, LOL! The WAS actually wants to go spend Thanksgiving with the LBS's family. I am having a lot of trouble wrapping my head around that. WOW. So now the LBS's family is going to be split in half on a family holiday because of the WAS. OK Jim I am going to tell you what I would do, but let me preface it by saying I am not a PC let's-all-hold-hands-and-love-each-other kind of guy I would read my family the riot act. If they want to invite this woman who is hellbent on divorcing me to family get-togethers then they can count me out. And I would not tell them quietly and peacefully. I would tell them that they are MY BLOOD FAMILY and HOW DARE THEY invite this woman without asking me first, WHO DO THEY THINK THEY ARE!!!!!????? I would suggest to them that if they EVER want to see me again they rethink their strategy on that. That's right, it's her or me, they need to decide, and if they choose her then goodbye Felicia. But that's me
Stander and Tread, the good news is that everyone else but B understands this. Even her husband, who I lambasted the other night over this, recognizes his wife is totally in the wrong.
FYI, I chose "B" not because it's the first letter of her name, but because it's the first letter in the word bitch. This is not the first time she's pulled this kind of crap, not by a long shot.
I expect to talk to WAW about it tonight, and I'll say exactly what you suggested above... I "do not feel comfortable being around you at my family events and you are no longer welcome."
My guess is B and WAW will have a nice dinner by themselves, and my family will enjoy ourselves elsewhere.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
FYI, I chose "B" not because it's the first letter of her name, but because it's the first letter in the word bitch.
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I expect to talk to WAW about it tonight, and I'll say exactly what you suggested above... I "do not feel comfortable being around you at my family events and you are no longer welcome."
My guess is B and WAW will have a nice dinner by themselves, and my family will enjoy ourselves elsewhere.
Today is D16's birthday. WAW came over and made dinner for us and two friends. We had a wonderful birthday time, lots of laughs, fun opening presents and cards... on the whole, and enjoyable time, and on the way out I asked WAW if we could talk for a minute.
I asked her about Thanksgiving and she said B and my brother had invited her down. I told her I would not be comfortable if the woman who was divorcing me came and spent the holiday with my family. She was visibly upset, and mentioned that I would be welcome anytime with her family. I said maybe that was because she was the one divorcing me, and not the other way around. She then asked “So this means the only way I’ll get to see your family is if you aren’t there?” and I said “no, it means I would be uncomfortable with you coming down for Thanksgiving weekend with my family.” She said that she thought I was not thinking about the kids, collected her things and drove away. We’ll see what happens.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
I would read my family the riot act. If they want to invite this woman who is hellbent on divorcing me to family get-togethers then they can count me out. And I would not tell them quietly and peacefully. I would tell them that they are MY BLOOD FAMILY and HOW DARE THEY invite this woman without asking me first, WHO DO THEY THINK THEY ARE!!!!!????? I would suggest to them that if they EVER want to see me again they rethink their strategy on that. That's right, it's her or me, they need to decide, and if they choose her then goodbye Felicia. But that's me 