I would personally be happy enough to find a resolution despite knowing my M will never ever be the same again. My only concern in looking forward is what if the respect was never there in the first place (my W has always been high maintenance) and she has in fact been a serial offender all along (don't suppose I'll never get to the bottom of that one). That would certainly not bode well for the future....

Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains