Jim
not at that stage yet personally but I think at some point (even if there is genuine suspicion) you just have to ride with it as art of your own personal recovery (I can now see my own personal improvement since, for example, I stopped looking at texts in June)

Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains