Not attending individual counseling.

I am looking into lawyers right now. I plan to divorce only as a last resort, but I need legal guidance on what I need to avoid doing in the meantime.

M 17 years
3 kids
EA start 2010
ILYBNILWY 1/2014
PA 1/2016
Bomb drop 2/2016
Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016
Living as roommates, EA continues