How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

detach - and I let her down.

Can you expand on this? I dont really understand this line of thinking.

So I'm not patting myself on the back here, but I am the only person in her life that has not turned my back on her... even in her deep fog she has acknowledged this and said that no one in her life has ever loved her the way I do.

As you have read, her biological family has turned their backs on her time and time again. Even the pseudo "'sister" has, they went close to 4 years NC with my W continually reaching out to her, all the girls in her tight nit circle of friends have done so at one point... her next closest friend after the "sister" did not invite my W to her wedding. These things all hurt my W.

Anyhow I think you get the picture of what I feel is a sad circumstance in my W's life.

I at times have wondered if all the W has done was a pro-active defense mech she subconsciously deployed to preempt what she thought was coming... me turning my back on her. I also felt at times, through out all this as things got rough over the past year, she is waiting for me to turn my back on her, at that point she can say "see, you are just like the rest of them".

I want clarify as I feel that in my saying "I'm the only one who has not turned my back on her" sounds very self righteous... I know some of my actions and words have let her down, and perhaps that is just as traumatic as turning my back on her, but I have yet to turn my back on her.

I'm interested to her your thoughts/advice. Thanks