still struggling

[Jim1234]

Something else that's come up that I'm stressing over right now....

My WAW joined me and our mutual friends when we were out last Saturday. We briefly talked about plans for Thanksgiving, and the fact that the kids want to travel south to visit my rather large extended family, which is exactly what I would like to do.

She mentioned that would be fine, but and she had no intention of being excluded from family events any more (she wasn't invited to my niece's wedding this summer), which I thought was an extremely odd thing to say, but I was fairly intoxicated, so I let it pass. She mentioned talking to my brother's wife (call her "B") about it, but again, I was drunk, and let it pass.

Yesterday, I emailed my family to say the kids and I would like to come down south, and ask if anyone was planning on hosting Thanksgiving. B replied that she would be happy to host everyone, including WAW. It would be exactly like B to feel sorry for WAW and invite her to dinner with my family.

I'm pissed B would do this, my parents have said they won't come if WAW is there, and I'm not sure I want to go if she's there.

I need to distance myself from the relationship, but how can i do so if she keeps showing up like she's still one of the family?