still struggling

[Jim1234]

Sandi, there was a lot of meat in your response and I hope you don't mind me taking some time to digest it and get back to you.

I'm not trying to pressure her into returning, but I don't feel like paying for her cell phone either. But all forcing the issue is going to do is antagonize her, driving another wedge between us, and make it harder to reconcile. I guess I'm having trouble figuring out where the line is between not fighting and standing up for myself.

Should I not have said anything and just let the D proceed?

Are we still talking about the issue of controlling one's spouse?

No, not controlling. The question really had to do with pointing out an option that might not really have existed when she filed, but violated the tenet of "do not bring up the MR".