Please don't bow out. I need your insights and I do apply your advice. I wouldn't have made it this far without you and so many others. I know I've been at this a while, I'm still a slow learner. You bring things to my attention that I would not have considered e.g. S11 inviting mom to the house. I would not have thought about that.
I have a difficult time getting my children to talk to me about what they are feeling/witnessing etc. I will continue to strive to find the right balance. I have a hard time getting my sons to talk to me about school, friends, etc. I get lots of "I don't know" from S11 and "It's fine" from S17.
I'm going to reread your post above again and again. I would ask that you stick with me.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017