Dusty, I'm glad you're learning to fight the NGS side. It's hard work. I actually met with a NGS Meetup group over the weekend. It's an informal group, not an official thing. You might want to see if you have something similar in your area. One of the guys there, who's been in the group a while, said NGS is like being an alcoholic - you're never cured, and you have to continue to work on it the rest of your life.
I realize now how this will take some time as every time I read the book I pick up on some things I didn't catch before. I wish I understood this about myself months if not years ago as I may not have been in this predicament. Then again, I do believe all things happen for a reason! I have also been in contact with a local NMMNG support group, looks like we will get together starting next month.
Originally Posted By: Holding
Sorry to hear about S17. I think I remember you saying he's hit the bottle before. I don't think sending him to a therapist means you're not dealing with the issue. Think of it like supplementing the talks your having with him.
Yes my son has done this before and my W swept it under the rug as I thought I had nipped this in the bud. After talking to my IC she basically said the same thing you did that I need to supplement what I am trying to do as his dad and have him go to an IC. My kids are screaming for one of us to be there for them(insert Lighthouse) My W hasn't been there at all for them so I am, wouldn't want it any other way. They are starting to figure out what is really going on here.
I think I remember you saying he's hit the bottle before. I don't think sending him to a therapist means you're not dealing with the issue. Think of it like supplementing the talks your having with him. 