Geez Gordie, I dunno how you are staying sane right now. God bless you and your family! What utter madness. So, let me get this straight - I thought the little kids didn't know? But she's bringing OM2 around? Disconnect there, not to mention lack of respect and all the other things which have already been stated.

She is completely out there, isn't she? I'm with Cali - she needs to leave. I'm also interested in this alimony thing and how it will affect you moving forward as Andrew noted.

I'm glad you're realizing that you are now both Mom and Dad. Tough place to get to, but it's best to be realistic for the kids' sake. Can you set up family counseling for the older kids? I'm glad they are talking to you about it. As hard as those conversations are, they do need to open up to someone. Ive witnessed exh shut our son down and it's not helpful to the kids when a parent does that.

You mentioned she's racked up more debt than was revealed. In our state if there isn't full financial disclosure then any agreement is up for change based on the hidden info coming to light. Might be a good thing that you didn't get this signed yet.

Gordie, cut off her access to your credit in any legal way you can - check with your attorney about how to do this. Stop the financial bleeding asap.

You are in the worst of it right now. It won't last forever, although it will feel like it will never end. Hang tough, you can do this for your kids and for yourself.

Are you getting some support for yourself also? Some therapy, or a group nearby? I'm so sorry Gordie, that this is happening to you and your family. You aren't alone. We're here for you. xoxoxoxo {{{{{Gordie}}}}}

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver