WW Part 2 Chapter 2

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Thanks again for stopping by Sandi!

W also says I'm rigid, judgmental and act holier than thou.

Well, I felt the same way toward my H, mainly b/c he said he'd done nothing wrong.

I've told W many times that I accept my 50% contribution to the breakdown of the MR

Here's the thing ^^^^^^^^^ I feel a lot of newcomers may fail to grasp. When many newcomer H's arrive here, they are so consumed with finding the "it" that will change the feelings of his WW......hoping she won't D him. Truth is........if that is his total focus, he will probably fail. If nothing else, she'll get mad that he waited until she was done before he made the changes.

Yes, WW said in MC "you only ever change when there is a crisis in our MR"

IMHO, the H needs to dig deep and mentally evaluate his MR, to determine the true source of the issues they currently have. He needs to take an inventory of himself and be painfully honest in how he has measured up as a man.......then as a husband.

Yes, that is key! LBH's need to "man up" first then work on being a good husband. Sandi, you've said many times that respect has to come first then love will follow.

I'm just saying that if she is showing wayward behavior, then he needs to focus on how to deal with her disrespect rather than doing cartwheels to please. Does that make sense or does it sound as if I'm talking in circles?

Makes perfect sense as always Sandi!