Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

[bigybiz]

Another Stander:

Thanks for your post.

Well 26 months since bomb drop and W still says she is terrified of me. So she would believe that abuse is prevalent.

Nobility is one thing - Being delusional is another. Again, I can't worry about what my children think. On the other hand, if they believe, my obsession with reconciliation is hurting them - that's bad news. Again, I don't know.

I try to engage the kids in "feelings" talk. I try also try and incorporate it when talking about morals, values, etc.

S17 had his first girl friend this past year, It was a good opportunity to talk about relationships. No bites.

When the OM became news, I had a frank "sermon" with my sons about the morals and values that I hold and why I think they are good for them too. Again, good opportunity to talk about why premarital and extramarital sex is bad. Remember, D21 was conceived while W was separated from MR #1. So I'm happy to demonstrate/share. Don't be like me. Again, little conversation about their feelings.

D21 - wouldn't give up much. She told me that W likes this guy because he is in W professional field, new friend group, etc. And the obvious that OM and I are total opposites.

S 17 did say that he did not see it lasting. Granted he also told me that I'm too old to get remarried.

I'd love to hear about other people's experience - who would be a good person to ask 25mlc? Georgia Bulldog, Tex Hubby?