I wish we all had the right answers on what works for an M. It is clear that a happy M takes two people that want it. Is his fear of D because of attachment? I am not sure you will know or if he even knows the answer to that.
You have been DBing for a long time. When are you truly happy? Acceptance of a different sitch is not easy. I still struggle and still feel a connection, always will. I can't have what I want if the other does not want to give. Only you can create your own happiness, having someone to share it with is a bonus.
Continue to give yourself time.
I must say it bothered me when you said your H left Retrouvaille early and when he did not take his kids swimming.
He is living his life and feels no remorse for his actions. Good, bad or indifferent on the outcome, everyone needs to live their life how they choose.
Praying that he gets a huge 2 x 4 someday and wakes up to see what an amazing person he is with.
(((Sara)))
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
