I happened by Andrew P. Allow me to close this series of "Me and Midlife...etc." with some bullet points of my entire, as opposed to a sitch update (perhaps I will begin something new, perhaps not; those who knew the tale from the start will appreciate).

- I found forgiveness for myself, not thru one source but many. Much of it in the words found here.

- Once I forgave me, I forgave her. Once I forgave her, I forgave us.

- I graduated in May 2017 with my Masters degree.

- I am 23 month narcotics free with no desire to return.

- My S is now S6. He and I have an amazing relationship. I'll keep this at I am proud of myself for how great of a father I have become, not by my own metrics, by his.

- Her MLC went through stages. I truly quit giving a sh^t about what stage she was in. In hindsight, this made a real difference to me and my own healing; the quit giving a sh^t part. Cadet once told me they return in reverse order of the way they left. Cadet's words proved true.

- Once I got happy and content with me, GAL slowed down. That fking failed. Ironic, I just rebooted my GAL program after an 8 month layoff about two weeks ago...funny that this reboot quelled a desire to return here.

- I cannot thank the DB forum enough, too many to point out. My hat is off, my waist is bent, I bow so very deeply in the direction of these hard friendships. Honor, courage, and all of the great things we hoped were inside of us, I salute you.


"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies.
BD: Feb '16
D: Mar '17
Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing.
S6