Contact from the dark side.

[Irish M]

Hi everyone

Can you see she is projecting herself onto you in both these quotes?

Hi Bttrfly, yes it's pretty clear. Sad that she chose the projecting tactic again. We all suspected it. I reviewed my FB and nothing says that I am in a couple and no lovey dovey photos of me and GF.

I would step right back and give yourself a break. And if she contacts you again, just let her know - I need a break from this contact XW. I wish you well and hope you continue with the support you are getting now. Best wishes Irish

Hi Sotto, yes this is exactly what I said more or less.

I think we need to step back again and let you work on you.

I would of loved to help you but I think everything was going too fast.

Have a good weekend

You gave her the truth..She says she is NOT giving OM up and you as a wise parent with full custody rights can choose to not want a drug addicted /lowlife OM around your girls
What is the hold he has on her?

HI Peace, No clue what she sees in the guy. Could be sympathy dating or just blind MLC love. They never pick anyone better than the LBS or even themselves. It's as if they need to take a problem person so they can fix them. And to chose him over her girls its just sick.

Yes I have full custody and my girls won't be sleeping in that mans house. His Facebook is covered in trashy woman pics and quotes on drugs. No respect for woman at all. Photos of girls that look no older than my girls in bikinis and short skirts, covered in tattoo and sexual content. He's a pig.

I have high hopes for her

Peace, I too have hopes for her but I am at the point where even that is fading.

Irish, you don't want to go to couple's counseling unless you hope to be a couple.

You said she saw your FB, did you by chance have pics of you and the new GF, perhaps with the girls on there?

Hi OwnIt
definitely no couples counseling. She is not the woman I loved and respected at all. Far from it. I think what I saw at the restaurant was a memory of her. As days go by and my brain processes it all, I see a lost soul. She has become her mother.

I would wager she emails you from work as you have already figured out her pattern, guessing OM is sensing a shift in her and possibly has been snooping a bit ... just a hunch there to explain her predictable hours of interaction with you.

Hi Cali,
I asked her in my last message Friday. Why the 8-5 messaging only? reply is down below

I was reading along I was waiting for her to lash out because in a way you telling her no couple counseling was a form of rejection .... hence why she brought up all those things and mentioned your GF knowing that you have moved from where she left you and they do not like that.

No they don't like that. It triggered something. Quite obvious the projection and even the disgruntle teen reaction.

This morning I wasn't expecting a reply.. Friday seemed clear and I thought it would be a few weeks. I was wrong, many of you were right

So there is nothing more I can do to try to prove to you that girls need me .. I am convinced I can be a good mother, But also I am happy with my decisions and stand my ground.

Yes I write between 8-5 during he week only, because I'm not available on weekends .. I take care of myself, I see friends, I do not even open my cell .. I take time for me !

When the girls want to know more they will contact me. It will not come from you because you will always prevent them from seeing me.

Good-bye


Nothing really to reply. Now , I'm sure she will be quiet. Let her spin a little with all that was said. As for myself, I'll take the next few weeks away from MLC land and enjoy the winter season. I am so looking forward to the snow. November without snow is just dark and gloomy.
Xmas decorations to prepare and maybe an early December trip to NY.

enjoy your week everyone.

Irish