But you don't need us to validate it for you. You are a smart, self-aware woman who wants to be careful of her own and other people's hearts. You can make these decisions.
We do the best we can with what we know at any given time. It won't be easy. But just make sure you always make it fun.
WRT the doctor... He didn't blow up your family for HER. He blew it up for himself, his lack of imagination, his selfishness, his inability to be content and to ascribe his discontent to his own shortcomings. He did it because he's not self-aware. She's just where his eye (ahem) happened to fall when the s%^& hit the fan. It's not personal. It's not about her the same as it's not about you.
For me, that was the hardest pill to swallow of a big pile of bitter pills. She's incidental. She's the face for the state of mind that caused him to fail.
I hope your brother is OK. Hugs, 25. Keep up the good work.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
