"I know it’s against the advice given by some wise souls here, but really think I have to move out once this is signed. I can’t handle being here any more."

I can't imagine anyone would disagree with this Gordie, given all that has been happening for you. My big piece of advice on moving out is to make sure you find yourself a comfortable, nourishing and convenient living situation. Please don't make huge compromises and live somewhere that isn't nice - enjoy finding somewhere and enjoy making it yours...

Like others have said, I think you will enjoy the peace that being away from her brings. You don't have to come home from work and worry about what may be on the screensaver or her phone. Also, WRT custody, you may not want to tie in to a longer term arrangement of custody at 'her' place. Okay for the short term, but not great for you in the medium and longer term.

I think she is making really poor judgements about bringing OM into contact with her kids. She sounds pretty infatuated and can't really see beyond this at the moment. It isn't a great thing for them to be introduced to him right after they have been told Mum & Dad are getting divorced. There will be consequences further down the road for this and my guess is she will lose some of the trust and confidence of her children, which is a sad thing. They will feel she didn't manage to be there, present for them during such an unsettling time. I hope you'll manage to carry on being the rock for them Gordie..

Best wishes and I"m rooting for you Gordie! Xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus