The list of complaints your WW has made about you is fine to use as a way of knowing some areas you may need to improve. For example...If she has complained about a flaw in your personality or social skills, then practice....practice....practice everywhere you go when interacting with people.
WW said I was socially awkward so I've been much more outgoing and personable especially after reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
Originally Posted By: sandi2
The painful truth about your W is that she is not interested in having you as her H at the present time, and it is useless trying to persuade her as long as another man is in her head.
I don't know if there is an OM or if she's a WAW. Her behavior when we're together tells me that she is more of a WAW.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
However, approaching it as a better man, will help you see through her b.s. and how you really need to handle things on your end. When she ends the waywardness, then you can apply what you learn about being a better husband.
But when you are focused on becoming a better man, then you don't "need" to show her how hard you are trying to keep her.
Sandi, That is what is finally starting to take hold in my head and attitude. I'm slowly realizing that it doesn't matter if she's a WW, WAW, or MLC, bottom line is I need to become the man I need to be for ME. If W wants to tag along on my journey then so be it.
I don't know that I can ever love W the way I used to or if I even want to love her that way again. Tears stream down my face as I type this because I made a vow in front of God and family to Love and cherish her until death us do part.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Make your own list......called goals.
Set a goal to do a 5K run and I ran one today and hit my time goal!!!
Other goals:
Information Systems Security certification Skydiving Learn to ride a motorcycle 10K run Half Marathon Learn Guitar(currently enrolled in a weekly guitar class) Attend church regularly
Here are some of my N.U.T.S Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms: I am faithful to my wife I exercise regularly I attend church regularly I play guitar regularly I do what I feel is best for my family I live in accordance with my faith Patience over temper
W also says I'm rigid, judgmental and act holier than thou. There are certain values and morals I hold dear to my heart that I won't waiver on. I think that makes me a strong person at my core. Seems that some of those may be conflicting with WW and maybe that's the "holier than thou" refrain from her.
