I think you should move out. It was h$ll on all of us with mine living here. The kids are going to hurt and act out, but the calmer and more stable you can make their enviornment, the faster they will get over it.
I can't believe a mom would do this. She is just such a lost soul. You are right, what alternative is their to remaining calm. Your freakout won't stop her, it won't help the kids feel better, it won't help you feel better, and it won't change anything legally.
I'm so much in awe on how well you are handling this. I hope that you can move through it swiftly and find some peace in the near future.
