Still here. Still not detached... (Part 2)

[PsySara]

Chris,
I wish I could give some "womanly insight" about your wife's thought process but I am also at a loss. The only thing that comes to mind is compartmentalization. Maybe she has placed the feeling she had on the wedding day in a particular box and she thinks the ring carries that feeling/thought as well? I for one would not want the ring my mother married my father in, we have very different taste and I don't want a ring that ended in divorce, if that makes sense. It also shows how your wife still thinks of things from her own perspective and not anyone else's, I seriously doubt she thought of your daughter's feelings in this process and the ring mentality strengthens that belief.