xW yesterday texted saying she wants to move the kids from my insurance to hers. This immediately sent up a red flag and I had a suspicion why.
She wants to move them to her insurance, because I pay for it. And because I pay for the insurance, that was the main reason the court said she had to pay support.
Apparently she is absolutely livid that she has to pay support. She had asked that I be reasonable and do what is best for her and the kids. I told her I was reasonable when I did not accept the full amount I was entitled to. She said I was entitled to nothing. She said she will never write 'child support' in the memo on the check, because the sheer thought of it makes her want to vomit, and that a real man would have turned it down. (I did originally turn it down 'Your honor, she and I have worked out an agreement that works well for us, so child support is not necessary')
She needs a new car, she has had to take a part time job, and says she lives paycheck to paycheck. She said that she took on all the debt and didn't try to get me to pay for it. I pointed out that she did that because she did not want me to fight her on the divorce, and now she has to accept the consequences. She said that she doesn't want anything from me, and I should want nothing from her, but I am screwing her over because I am angry about the divorce. I told her I am the happiest I have been in years, and I thanked her for asking for the divorce so I could finally see the how things really were.
She doesn't want to pay CS, but she wants to keep her same level of lifestyle. She doesn't want to cut back on her expenses.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
