What really kills me is that it has happened here, we have no family or real friends here, we've lived here 10+ years
Why no friends after 10+ years? When I was that age, I would not have done well (emotionally) living that many years away from family and having no friends nearby.......and raising two kids.
How young were you when you M each other? Did either of you date other people before going together?
I think you need to take her seriously when she doesn't want to be alone with the children. Considering her attacking you, she seems emotionally unstable. Biting seems pretty violent.......were you holding her down?
What kind of childhood did she have? Did she marry young to get away from her parents?
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I’m sure after the hug she will be very cold when she comes to collect the kids tomorrow to take them to my hometown.
Then why do you try to touch her? If she initiates a hug......then respond as if she's your sister. That means keeping your hands off every thing but her back and shoulders. Hips are too familiar/personal.
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I just don’t understand why she’s the one that needs to get drunk every night when she left me, I only had two pints in the hotel!
You only had two pints? What happened to just one pint after work? Maybe you need to try and think outside of the box. The fact that she gets drunk every night (even when staying with the kids?) may have nothing to do with which spouse left the other one. However, it could have everything to do with her current frame of mind. Perhaps she is trying to forget something in her past.......or maybe she is acting like GGW.
So, what steps have you taken to improve the man called Liam?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
