Though we had covered this. You don't have to tell the kids she won't be around as much. They're smart enough to figure it out. If you have to explain to S11 that he will spend time with mom away from your house.......then find, do it.
I think you are getting too stressed out about all of this b/c Biggy is trying to over think things. Keep it simple. She is dating (cough, cough) OM, so no more playing one big happy family together. See......simple.
Here's the thing, you have never gone through the detaching. That part has to come, Biggy, for your own sake. You have to let her go. Then, if one day she wants you back.......(not just the home/family life as a whole, but you as her H) you can face that bridge when you get there.
Don't threaten to beat up every guy she sees, sleeps with, or whatever. It just shows her how attached, controlling, and insecure you feel. You are separated! If that violates your moral/spiritual beliefs, then end it legally. Otherwise, you can't run off every man she decides to date.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
