She clearly isn't well enough to have a good conversation with. She's looping over and over again and is projecting on to you what may be within her or what she thinks her therapist has told her. Time to step back a bit and allow her messages to sit for a day or so before responding back to her.
She has brought up a couple of times about her financial situation, i.e., the car especially. Maybe she's hoping that you'll offer to assist her in repairing the car or giving her a loan, i.e., so that she can come see the girls. The car issue, to me, sounds like a poor excuse not to visit w/the girls...but that's my personal opinion.
She is still not ready to look in the mirror and state "I have issues that I need to resolve and I need to own my part in the break up of my marriage and the distance between my girls." Until she does this, she's not well enough to see them. The girls are smart enough to figure things out and they do not want to be around those people who have enabled her.
Snip the loop and I agree w/what Sotto and Bttrfly have written. You do not need to hear her projections.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
