It's been 2 years. I am good with it. The kids and I are at a place of this is what it is. My Ex wife just wants to be mean, ugly, and thinks she can just be that way.
What's wrong with her? Good things are happening for me that will be good for my kids but she thinks she is all that and a bag of chips. She isn't anything to write home about, hasn't done anything to even try to make things easy for my kids and I to be father and sons.
What can I do, cause my kids and I have moved forward and she tries to block us and thinks she can call the shots.
Why is she being this way? This is what she wanted...a broken family.
We had always wanted to move closer to her childhood friends back home cause our friends where we live were moving away and she got into a fight with her best friend here. She has an interfering mother who has no life and causes problems. Alcoholic and Bi Polar.
My ex thinks she the best person in the world but doesn't realize that people can see her motives and fake personality.
As a person she stinks. She takes her mothers side when the kids say the mother did this or that. Our therapists say she and her mom are emmeshed and one even told her her mother was sick.
I don't have to be doing anything but she will make things up. She thinks she is entitled to be treated like a princess, but to me she is just someone else.
I am tired and its been too long. she doesn't seem to have moved on amd blaming me for anything and everything. I never abused her in anyway. I just didnt want to move and money was tight.
The kids and I are at a place of this is what it is. My Ex wife just wants to be mean, ugly, and thinks she can just be that way.
What's wrong with her? Good things are happening for me that will be good for my kids but she thinks she is all that and a bag of chips. She isn't anything to write home about, hasn't done anything to even try to make things easy for my kids and I to be father and sons.
I'm glad you and the boys are well. As for your XW, there's not much you can do about her bitterness and resentment of the past. It sounds as if she still wants to punish you.....and if that involves your kids, so be it.
Just as before, you cannot control how she thinks or what she does. The more you complain about her lack of cooperation, or whatever, the more it feeds her negativity. She is a very angry woman, and it seems that she'd take down everyone around her if it meant hurting you.
My suggestion is to stick to the legal layout in the child custody, have as little to do and say with her as possible........and let her go. I know it must be difficult when you see the boys getting jerked around by her. It's hard to hear what goes on at the other house, and it not affect you.
Are you in counseling?
Are you still on the wagon?
How has your life progressed since the D?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
