Summary... My W wanted a D due to PA with OM. That fell apart and I did tons of 180s, and my W decided not to D. She declared she will stay as a partner in raising kids only.
this ^^^ is not a reconcialation, you realize, right? This is her saying "There's no OM at the moment and so I'll stick around MY kids..." AND it's after you pretzeled yourself for her.
- I thought my W had ended her EA with my BIL. I figured it was time to tell my sister about the EA. After W found out, she told me she was filing for D. My W did not file, and has been very angry since...likely she feels trapped. In recent argument, W declared she will not leave me because she does not want to split time with the kids.
W has been acting very badly toward me in front of the kids lately. Consensus is for me to leave the house. I have been advised not to leave unless divorced. Correction: consensus is for you to leave UNLESS a L advises you against it - some won't- IN WHICH CASE we suggest you get a TRO or whatever other tool is used in your jurisdiction. TO get HER out, or you or whatever.
Your present situation is untenable. I'm not sure what it will take for you to believe that.
No likelihood of improvement in this arrangement AND instead, chances are continued deterioration.
I am not ready to throw in the towel or divorce. Not yet.
then leave. That's right, LEAVE if you want to save the marriage!
it is an odd form of stubbornness or denial that tells you by staying in a sh1t situation you are somehow improving it.
Get out and let her figure things out IF IF IF she can.
She sure won't with you both in the same house. This is so clear to me.
Sorry
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
