Exchanged pleasantries and W said "you're distant" I don't know how to respond to that so I just said "I'm not trying to be".
Example of various responses: "Just trying not to Hoover". "Trying to give you space". "Really? Hadn't noticed". "Oh?" (Say nothing and just shake your head)
Quote:
W: What's wrong? You're acting strange Me: Nothing...I was studying for my test (again, trying not to hover) W: I'll be back(she was on her way out to the store)
You did fine. Actually, whenever the WW starts asking what's wrong or accusing you of acting distant, cold, strange, etc..........she is (1) trying to pull you into a relationship talk, or verbal attack; Or (2) she has, or is planning to contact OM and is watching you very closely. That could have been her reason for a quick trip to the store......but not necessarily.
Refresh my memory, please........does your W hold down a full time job?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
