The biggest mistake you are ever going to make is you believing that you can fix this. i.e. if I give her everything she asks for etc..
We do not know your Wife, but on this board we KNOW what you are going through and have seen this situation 100000 times before - it might feel unique and personal to you BUT this is nothing we haven't seen before so just listen.
NOTHIHG you do to try is making this situation better at the moment so stop trying.
Yesterday you mentioned reading into what happened when you lent in for a kiss and a hug... DO yourself a favour and STOP with this thinking and stop instigating close contact because you know deep down your doing it in the hope she hugs or kisses you back.
Based on the comments you made about living a distance away from your family etc.. I would hazard a guess that you are slightly co-dependent and this only multiples the situation by 10.
First things first you need to let her go and start to get your balls back by sitting down and thinking about who you are and want you want (separate from your wife).
To help give you an idea on the mindset you need to be in you have to act like they have died. That you will never see them again. What would a life with just you in it look like? You need to get to this state as soon as possible as this will be your most productive state. But this will take time and it wont be easy.
I think you're completely right. Interacting with her is just hurting me more, she is obviously trying very hard to be mean to me at the moment. It's not really her nature to be like this, I can tell she is struggling with it. It's a shame our journey has to end like this, it really is.
Trying hard to be mean to me?
It's not really in her nature?
You can tell she is struggling?
You are mind reading.. my friend you know nothing.
I don't mean to sound harsh but if you knew you wouldn't be here in the first place.
From this point on never talk and convince yourself you know her or understand her actions.
