Fighting my way out of the dark Part 5

[Holding]

Benni, thanks for the input. You have a great success story, but I am asking about actual post-D recons. Please don't think I'm trying to discount your sitch though!

Ginger, do you have any specifics? Maybe a member's name we can look up?

East, thanks for sharing that. I'm sorry the remarriage only lasted 2 years.

Doodler and LH, I actually am NOT considering recon, though I can see how you might've thought that. I guess I should've been more clear why I asked. Several people IRL have asked me if I would take STBXW back later, after D. One friend even warned me that she will be back. But I can't see EVER wanting her back, she is toxic and not anyone I want in my life. But since people ask me this question all the time, I've been curious HOW they could take someone back after something like D happens.

I've read here that D is just a piece of paper. I disagree. That's like saying M is just a piece of paper. D is a major, life -altering decision. It's an announcement to the world that your M is over. It's often a contentious and ugly struggle with someone you used to love. How do people ever get past that and recon?

So that's what I'm curious about. And if there's a thread here that I could read about it, where someone went into the reasons they were able to take the X back, that would be really interesting to me.