Man this to me is just fascinating. I recall back in 2015 when mine was poking out a bit I really wish I had the patience you are showing here, putting the girls first and foremost and also calling things out as you have, she is so eager to jump right back and be 'mom' all the sudden and you wisely are articulating caution as you should not only for the girls but for her as well. Hats off to how you are handling this all there is so much people can and should take from these exchanges.
The MLC tone is still there with her, the fear of begin judged and called out on her chit by the girls seems to be the flagship as I would assume it to be. She overcame that same fear with you ... the girls I guess will be a bit different and she will need to become a bit more healthy to take that on, you see it and have expressed that very well back to her in a non-judgemental way.
