Has any forum member here ever gotten a D and then later recon'd with their Ex?
Holding,
I'm sure there are some who've reconciled after divorce; I read somewhere that 10% of couples that divorce ultimately remarry.
The reason I'm responding to your question is because I assume the motivation for asking the question is to get some idea of the potential for reconciling with your wife. You haven't physically separated yet; you'll be surprised how quickly feelings can change after separation. After my separation it only took me a few days to realize just how badly my candy @ss had been bullied and badgered by my wife. Up until that point I would've gladly reconciled.
The reason I mention that is because I suspect the problem with reconciliation is often because the LBS doesn't want anything to do with the ex-spouse. In my case, I'm 99.8% certain that I can't reconcile with my XW. Why? It's not because I wouldn't love her (I'll always love her); it's because if I detected anything approaching a lack of respect, I'd send her packing. I honestly don't think she could last an hour with me before I'd boot her out the door. Knowing that, it wouldn't be right for me to entertain reconciliation.
You'll probably feel very differently as soon as you have some physical and temporal space between you and your wife.
