Contact from the dark side.

[Lifes Twists]

Hi Irish,

You may never see the compassion for the damage she caused that you are looking for. I am going on 2-1/2 years since my ex started to poke her head out like yours is. Unfortunately this part of the marathon we are on seems like it will be the longer part.

My advice is that you shouldn't set goals that are unattainable for your ex. Given your daughters ages, I would consider talking with them and feeling out what they would want to see before they would be comfortable seeing their mother. They may at first come up with crazy expectations but you can help to guide them. Use it as a teaching moment and help them to develop empathy and compassion.

Your ex may never be the mom your girls knew again. My oldest told me the other day that mom is not the mom she remembers growing up. help your daughters to understand that their mother is ill. That she may never be the same as she was.

helping your daughters to grow and sharing with them your compassion will pay off in spades.