Hi Gordie, I copied your questions from my last post.
1. It seems like your XW sees you as a friend or more than a friend that she can rely on for financial and other support and it seems you are comfortable with this, right? Except for the car insurance that you would like her to pay, things are pretty much as you’d like.
- I guess I am okay with this for now. Long term, things will change so I'm just doing what works right now. I try to support her if she comes to me. I don't offer advice (unless she asks), just listen and support.
2. It also seems like you have a demanding job with travel and you depend on her for extra childcare and housesitting, right?
- I have to travel quite a bit but I've let my boss know I can only travel on the weeks I don't have the kids. I also ask if she would like to stay here to take care of the dogs when I'm gone. I let her know I will make other arrangements if she doesn't want to so she knows I'm not depending on her for childcare or house sitting. It works for now but long term something will have to change.
3. It also seems neither of you have moved on to other R so that also has a different feel than many of the other situations. Are you not interested in dating at this time (no judgment, just curious)? I remember early there was some sort of OM. Is he out of the
-As far as I know that scumbag is gone. I dont have any reason to believe he's still in the picture. I have no idea what she's been up to though or if there was possibly OM2. I once mentioned she befriended our late friend's ex. She did say something about him a few weeks ago and it was ironically a perfect chance for me to remind her about what a s---head he is and how he treated our friend poorly. She agreed.
I'm not sure when I'll be ready to date. I don't feel like I have a lot to offer right now so that equals more self work.
I'm just trying to take care if my kids and myself and seeing what happens for now.
