Husband gone for second time - new here

[Sotto]

Hi Nicole, I'm glad you at least got a partial diagnosis and hopefully you can get started with a treatment plan. Good that you are seeing a psychologist and counsellor too. I saw a therapist for six months or so after XH and I separated and it was helpful. I cried A LOT at those appointments, so I let out some emotion too..

Just a thought on your post above - I wouldn't make a change in the marriage status your primary aim just now. I would focus on your own growth and healing. Make those appointments about helping you feel better, stronger, more able to cope and more resourceful. Independent of your relationship, what things about you would you like to work on for you?

Thanks for your kind comments - yes I did cope, survive and thrive and I see myself as 'happily single' just now. So, life can feel positive even if the marriage isn't restored despite your best efforts. I think for me, giving it my best effort and giving myself my best effort have been the thing that came to truly matter - who and how did I manage to be through all of this?

A friend recently shared an article with me - all about the 3 loves in our lives. Our self-love, our love of others (children, friends, animals - perhaps a romantic love (optional)) and those things we love to do...plus gratitude. I think if we nourish these three areas and practice gratitude too, we will be on a good path - whatever our partner may be doing.

Take care Nicole and hope you'll start to feel much better soon :-) xx