Hi LAJar, I forgot the pension part. We decided to leave pensions out of the picture - and cars too. With pensions we both had good pension arrangements - his rather better than mine. But again I didn't pursue that avenue and no regrets. All of our circumstances are different though and others do share pensions etc...

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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