"I don't know, you will have to ask her - mom decided to leave and knows she is welcome back."
Why are you including the bolded part? so you can be seen as 'the good guy'?
Because that is the truth, mind you I have her friends telling my kids lies about me, last occurrence was 4 weeks ago. When my kids tell me about the W's friends talking about me the W says it never happened.
This also brings me to my last C session, the C laid into me when I told him how I was only focusing on what I did to damage the M. (He was also our MC when she was still going) he told me to stop, that while we were going together I was the only one who was willing to be accountable for my actions, he then asked me to give him one example of her owning her actions while we were in MC, I could not, he pointed out that the closest she came to being accountable was to acknowledge but then make excuses. He then reminded me that she was the one that lied in MC, and then stopped going, so in his point of view she is the one at fault.
I explained DB'ing to him and while he completely agreed with detaching, he told me to stop beating myself up... it's on her, I did everything I could and more.
The sun still rises, even though the pain.
Married: 10 Together: 17 M:40 W:37 D:13, S 7, S:5 1st Bomb dropped: 4/20/17 2nd Bomb dropped: 6/6/17 Separated: 7/26/17 W moved back home: 12/1/17
