T...to add I am 5 months in and I know that I am not completely detached. I am getting there each day but IMO it is a process and not a light switch. For me detachment is a constant work in progress.

I think the point is that you can move on with your life in many ways without your W being involved. Can you do that?

IMO having a piece of paper in your hand should not help you move on. You can start mentally doing that now by accepting that your MR is over and technically you are already D'd.


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018