you are in this place where she still is a factor in your personal decisions and you are ready to see what woman meshes with you when you don't even really know who the true you is independent of being your W's H.
Exactly.
You are talking about throwing in the towel...but Im not sure what that means for you. Filing for divorce? Sure. Fine. Knock yourself out. I dont really see how that would change your life any. So what are these counselors suggesting that you DO?
